Disclaimer: I am by no means qualified to preach about perfect parenting, but I'm trying and I'm learning as I go. It's hard, probably one of the hardest jobs I've ever had, and I'd love for you to learn right alongside me. I've taken the info for this blog post from the Attachment Parenting International website to best explain parenting in a natural and positive light.
If you've hung around here long enough or know me in real life, you know I'm a huge advocate for biologically normal infant sleep and very anti-sleep training in the traditional sense. I find that most people who classify themselves as natural parenting practicing parents fall into the same mindset. It's back to basics and back to instincts - and instincts tell you to pick up a crying child, not leave them crying for hours alone in a dark room!
From the moment baby is born, you make decisions about how they will eat. Fast forward a few months, you'll be making even bigger decisions about when and how to start solids. To quote Attachment Parenting International, "feeding a child involves more than providing nutrients; it is an act of love." Unfortunately, there's a lot of heated discussion surrounding how people feed their babies, so let's take an unbiased, non-judgemental look at feeding baby from breastfeeding, formula feeding, to starting solids.
J - Juggling Siblings
Giving your child a sibling is one of the greatest gifts you can give them - or so they say. I wouldn’t know, I’m an only child. BUT I have given my oldest child two siblings, so I’ve been in your shoes...times two since it was twins! Welcoming a new baby is definitely a transition for everyone involved and there are a few things you can do to prepare older brother or sister beforehand as well as many things you can do to ease their transition once baby has arrived.
F - Find Your Tribe.
After having a baby, many things will change, there’s no doubt about that. One of the more surprising changes many moms face is the fact that they feel isolated. Maybe you’re the first of your friends to have a baby. Maybe you follow gentle parenting and your friends follow traditional punitive parenting. Regardless of the reason, many times women find themselves “starting over” in the friend sphere.
B - Bond.
One of your most important jobs as a new parent is to bond with your baby. The benefits of bonding are immeasurable and the pay-off in the long run is outstanding. This is why it is so important to focus on healing and bonding in those first few weeks/months postpartum and to continue the bonding through your parenting style well into the third year.
Allesanda received her Bachelors in Behavioral Science from the University of Louisiana at Lafayette in December 2013. She now lives in North Texas with her husband and three children. As a maternal support practitioner and educator of family sleep and eco-friendly living, she blogs about family sleep, wellness, nutrition, pregnancy, birth, postpartum, holistic health, and parenting.